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Polygamy: When You Think About It...

Date: Jul 12, 2001
Word Count: 1200 words
Cross-Reference: Polygamy, "dumbed down males", Dr. Joyce Brothers

Published: July 12, 2001, The Intelligencer (newspaper) Wheeling, West Virginia, USA

It's a biblical pro-marriage concept that makes sense for those who willingly choose it


To   think...  

The   era   of   "dumbed-down   males".   Spiritually.   Intellectually.   Emotionally.   "Dumbed-down   males."  

"Males",   that   is,   because   such   ones   are   certainly   not   men.   Males   afraid   of   marriage   and   responsibilities.   Males   abandoning   impregnated   girlfriends.   Males   going   from   one   woman   to   the   next,   leaving   a   trail   of   abandoned   single   moms   with   fatherless   children.   Males   not   taking   a   deliberative   role   in   the   spiritual,   intellectual,   and   emotional   growth   of   their   families.   Males   abandoning   single   moms   to   the   trap   of   either   government   welfare   or   being   a   "hamster-in-the-wheel",   working   for   the   children’s   daycare,   never   getting   ahead,   never   having   time   to   meet   a   high-caliber,   good   man   to   be   a   husband   for   her   and   father   for   her   children.  

Biologically   "male"?   Yes,   but   certainly   not   men.   "Dumbed   down   males"   indeed..  

And   yet   all   such   societally   destructive   actions   are   all   considered   legal.  


Viewed   in   that   context,   polygamy   could   indeed   appear   as   "bad"   to   the   untrained   eye.  

By   such   truly   "low"   standard,   many   people   then   pre-judge   the   concept   of   polygamy.   Given   the   false   stereotype   that   polygamy   is   supposedly   "about   flesh"   (since   when   is   marriage   all   "about   flesh"?)   which   many   wrongly   have   been   taught   to   think,   then   imagining   "dumbed   down   males"   in   the   context   of   a   flesh-based   concept   of   polygamy,   that   brings   a   horrible   picture   indeed.   (Most   pro-polygamists   agree!)   This   mistaken   pre-judgement   is   also   usually   compounded   with   the   thought   that   "everybody   else   believes   against   polygamy".   Therewith,   few   people   would   question   centuries   of   tradition.  

That   first   mistake   then   leads   to   the   next,   the   second   mistake.  

Namely,   they   "stop   there"   in   their   thinking,   stop   actively   thinking   for   themselves.  

Yet   "stopping   there"   is   the   gravest   threat   to   anyone   and   to   freedom.  


On   any   issue,   when   one   "stops   there"   in   thinking   for   themselves,   manipulative   propaganda   then   has   power   to   influence.   Truthfulness   becomes   irrelevant,   as   the   unquestioned   propaganda   then   misleads   listeners   to   support   things   which   can   actually   bring   great   harm   to   even   good   people.  

This   rather   frightening   reality   is   not   due   to   "message"   content.   Many   listeners   simply   accept   such   propaganda   without   question.  

This   is   the   greatest   hurdle   and   injustice   faced   by   anyone   honestly   seeking   to   intellectually   discuss   good   forms   of   polygamy   (or   polygyny,   as   specifically   discussed   herein).  


One   primary,   common   method   of   anti-polygamy   propaganda   is   that   of   "tying   together"   unrelated   side-issues,   such   as   abuse   examples.   This   misleads   listeners   with   the   implication   that   such   side-issues   are   supposedly   the   "definition"   of   polygamy   itself.  

God   forbid.   Abuse   is   abuse.   Even   most   pro-polygamists   vehemently   oppose   abuse.  

The   implication   of   pro-polygamists   being   "tied   together"   with   abusers   is   as   unjust   as   it   would   be   if   a   loving   "monogamist"   was   "tied   together"   by   implication   with   cruel   wife-beaters.  

Polygamy,   as   a   word,   is   only   a   definition   of   a   relationship   configuration,   such   as   the   polygamous   marriages   of   such   Biblical   heros   as   Moses,   Abraham,   Israel,   and   David.   The   only   defining   difference   between   polygamy   and   monogamy   is   numerical.  

Yet,   anti-polygamy   propaganda   would   propagandize   otherwise.   Domestic   Violence.   An   example   with   a   13   year-old   step-daughter.   Welfare   fraud.   Other   like   negativities   about   which   many   pro-polygamists   vehemently   speak   out   against,   too.   These   are   purely   side-issues.   They   have   nothing   to   do   with   polygamy   itself.  

That’s   just   the   beginning,   though.   Another   propaganda   method   is   a   powerfully   emotional   one.   The   truly-   heartbreaking   experiences   of   a   few   women   whose   abusive   marriages   also   happened   to   have   some   involvement   with   polygamy   are   exploited   as   if   their   experiences   are   somehow   what   "polygamy   is   about".  

A   deeper   look   into   these   truly   heart-wrenching   stories   always   reveals,   though,   that   polygamy,   by   itself,   was   not   the   real   issue.   Abuse   in   one   form   or   another   is   the   issue   in   almost   all   cases.  

Yet,   listeners   are   not   made   to   realize   these   specific   facts   pertaining   to   these   abuses.   (The   hearts   of   a   vast   multitude   of   pro-polygamists   go   out   to   these   hurt   women,   as   abuse   is   wholly   opposed   indeed).  

Truly,   such   heart-wrenching   stories   have   a   powerful   influence   indeed.  

No   wonder,   then,   that   anyone   not   thinking   for   themselves   about   polygamy   would   be   so   easily   influenced   by   such   emotionally   manipulative   propaganda.  


But   a   lot   is   not   being   told   in   the   propaganda.  

Most   of   these   unfortunately   abused   women   have   come   from   a   "breakaway   sect"   situation   with   a   specific   presupposition   in   Mormon   doctrine   which   religiously   "obligates"   women   to   polygamy   (removing   the   consentual   issue   from   the   matter).  

To   say   that   "all"   polygamy   operates   on   the   basis   of   a   Mormon   presupposition   is   as   absurd   as   saying   that   "all"   monogamy   operates   on   the   basis   of   being   Catholic.  

As   well,   banning   polygamy   because   of   a   few   "bad"   anecdotal   examples   is   as   absurd   as   wanting   to   ban   monogamy   because   of   vicious   wife-beaters.  

Such   propaganda   creates   such   a   chill   factor   that   it   actually   "silences"   others   who   could   otherwise   share   their   positive   experiences   of   the   advantages   of   polygamy.  

It   is   a   fact   that   there   are   indeed   adult,   non-promiscuous,   life-long,   consentual   polygynous   families   in   which   polygyny   has   actually   been   a   genuine   God-send   for   all   concerned.  

But   propaganda   is   so   fierce   that,   if   they   dared   share   their   positive   experience   publicly,   a   "reign   of   terror"   could   potentially   be   unleashed   upon   them,   their   children   kidnapped   by   government,   despite   the   fact   that   for   the   first   time   in   their   lives,   a   good   and   nurturing   man   is   in   the   family!  

It   is   that   kind   of   propaganda   "silencing"   even   of   good   people   that   creates   the   environment   of   secrecy   in   other   places   with   not-so-good   "polygamy"   ways.   And   that   is   what   leads   to   the   "breakaway   sects"   where   abuse   of   women   has   tragically   occurred.  

Criminalizing   consentual   polygamy,   combined   with   this   kind   of   "silencing",   directly   "pushes   it   underground",   which   is   precisely   what   causes   opportunities   for   such   tragic   abuse   to   occur.  

But   these   things   are   not   being   told   in   the   anti-polygamy   propaganda.  


Truth   Bearer,   a   cross-denominational   Christian   Polygamy   ministry   (   is   working   to   overcome   such   propaganda   and   issues,   being   successful   in   getting   the   truth   out.  

It   is   encouraging   that   the   ministry’s   experience   is   that,   whenever   a   person   truly   does   consider   polygamy   with   thinking   only   for   themselves,   to   help   them   see   the   truth   and   be   persuaded   of   it,   this   is   virtually   always   successful.   This   is   very   encouraging   indeed.  

Truth   Bearer   is   not   directly   seeking   "legalization",   but   rather   "de-criminalization",   of   polygamy.   This   is   due   to   not   believing   the   rather   idolatrous   notion   that   government   has   any   authority   defining   what   God   alone   created.   (If   government   is   definer   of   marriage,   then   none   of   the   men   in   the   Bible   were   married.   God   forbid.)  

Accomplishing   de-criminalization   requires   building   a   constituency   who   will   not   oppose   polygamy-friendly   politicians.  

Eyeing   the   spectrum   of   U.S.   politics,   it   appears   that   the   only   adamant   opposition   to   polygamy   would   be   the   very   source   from   which   most   people   who   are   involved   within   Christian   Polygamy   come:   conservative,   Scripture-believing   Christians.   (That’s   right.   Christian   Polygamy   is   not   a   libertine   concept   by   any   means   ---   only   scripture.)  


The   Truth   Bearer   Agenda   considers   such   fellow   Scripture-believing   Christians   as   being   the   proverbial   "first   floor"   of   the   "house   of   cards"   of   "anti-polygamy   thinking"   in   society.   Once   fellow   Christians   are   persuaded   that   Christian   Polygamy   is   both   Scriptural   beyond   question   and   is   pro-loving   women   only   as   life-long   marriage,   most   other   constituencies   would   likely   be   laissez   faire   about   the   issue.  

The   "tolerance"   dogma   of   religious   liberals   requires   their   "tolerance"   for   such   adult,   consentual,   non-abusive   loving   polygamy.  

The   "woman’s   choice"   view   of   feminists   also   says   that   women   who   genuinely   consent   to,   and   even   want   to,   live   polygynously   must   have   that   freedom   to   so   choose.  

Cultural   conservatives,   once   conservative   Scripture-believing   Christians   are   first   persuaded,   would   then   see   adult,   consentual   polygamy   as   a   certainly   better   alternative   to   single   moms   on   welfare,   saving   taxpayer   dollars.  

Most   everyone   else   could   then   "care   less"   what   consenting   adults   chose   to   do.  

Hence,   the   Truth   Bearer   Mission   is   that   of   bringing   Christian   Polygamy   to   the   Churches,   to   "remove"   that   "first   floor"   in   that   "house   of   cards".  

This   Mission   is   being   done   successfully   with   the   "Truth   Bearer   Vision   of   love-not-force".   Namely,   a   man   must   himself   grow   in   being   so   selflessly   loving   toward   his   wife   that   she   willingly   embraces   polygamy   herself.   To   otherwise   force   it   upon   her   is   cruel,   loveless.   "Love-not-force"   protects   women.   It   does   indeed   both   comfort   and   persuade   women   of   the   godliness   and   sinlessness   of   Christian   Polygamy.  

The   web-site   of   Truth   Bearer   (   is   a   comprehensive   resource   of   every   Scriptural   matter   and   question   about   the   issue   of   sin   and   godliness   pertaining   to   Christian   Polygamy.   It   makes   it   clear   that   this   cross-denominational   organization   is   Christ-centered,   Spirit-led,   Scripture-believing;   that   Christian   Polygamy   is   only   about   non-promiscuous,   life-long   marriage,   following   the   marriage   model   of   Christ   selflessly   loving   His   Churches.  

Therewith   is   Christian   Polygamy   gaining   momentum.   More   and   more   Christians   are   finding   and   participating   at   every   month.  

Thereby,   de-criminalization   will   eventually   come   indeed.  


It’s   a   matter   of   thinking,   thinking   for   one’s   own   self.  

"Dumbed   down   males"   are   afraid   of   marriage,   are   destroying   women.   (That’s   not   a   crime?)  

Polygamy   encourages   men   to   grow,   love,   want   marriage,   willingly   take   marital   responsibilities   seriously.   (That’s   a   crime?)  

Presently,   a   "dumbed   down   male"   is   free   to   impregnate   and   abandon   single   mom   after   another.   But   a   loving,   pro-marriage   polygamous   man   with   freely-consenting   wives   is   considered   criminal.  

Where’s   the   thinking   in   that?  

Ironically,   it   is   this   absurdity   that   caused   this   present   era   of   "dumbed   down   males".  

If   such   "dumbed   down   males"   knew   that   women   would   no   longer   settle   for   them   because   of   women   having   the   polygamy   option   to   marry   married   men   ("proven   quantities"),   such   males   would   have   incentive   to   grow   up!  

Spiritually.   Intellectually.   Emotionally.   Men   should   start   loving   women   rightly.  

Polygamy   could   overturn   this   era   of   "dumbed   down   males".  

On   Bill   Maher’s   "Politically   Incorrect"   (Comedy   Channel,   December   22,   1994),   Dr.   Joyce   Brothers   offered   her   woman’s   point   of   view,   "I   would   rather   be   third   in   line   of   a   good   man   than   the   only   wife   of   a   jerk."  

That’s   thinking!  


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